I got into real estate because I love homes and I love helping people. I love walking into a space and imagining what it could become for someone. I love guiding clients through a process that feels big and intimidating and helping it feel doable. At its core, I thought this job would be about strategy, timing, and finding the right house.
And it is. But it is also so much more emotional than I ever expected.
Somewhere along the way, I realized that being a good real estate agent is not just about knowing the market. It is about understanding people. Their fears, their hopes, their hesitation, and sometimes their excitement that feels almost too big to name out loud…. I did not plan on becoming a part time therapist, but it turns out that real estate and emotions are deeply connected.
Buying or selling a home usually happens during a moment of change. Sometimes it is a joyful one like a first purchase, a growing family, or a fresh start in a new city. Sometimes it is harder like a breakup, a job change, or letting go of a place that held a lot of memories. Even when the decision feels right, it can still bring up a lot. Most of the time, they aren’t even able to feel their pain until towards the end. Or during the process and I am willing to be there to help pick up any pieces.
I have worked with first time buyers who are thrilled and nervous all at once. They ask great questions about the process, but what they are really looking for is reassurance. They want to know that they are making a smart decision and that they are not alone in it. They want someone they can relate to and in so many ways I can.
I have worked with couples who agree on the goal but have very different ideas of what home should feel like. One wants charm and character, the other wants functionality and ease. We tour houses, but we also talk about compromise and priorities and what matters most long term.
I have worked with sellers who are ready to move on and still find themselves feeling emotional when they walk through their home one last time. Because even when you are excited for what is next, it is normal to feel attached to what you are leaving behind.
These moments are not something you see on social media when people talk about real estate. But they are very real.
What I have learned is that clients do not just need someone who can open doors and write offers. They need someone who can listen. Someone who can slow the process down when it feels overwhelming and move it forward when it feels stuck. Someone who understands that confidence does not always show up all at once. Someone who has been through this life changes just as they have.
I still love the business side of real estate. I care deeply about doing my job well. I pay attention to details, contracts, timelines, and negotiations. That part matters. But I also care about how my clients feel throughout the process.
Sometimes that looks like talking through a decision more than once. Sometimes it looks like saying, it is okay to take a day and think about it. Sometimes it looks like celebrating the excitement and sometimes it looks like grounding nerves.
I think there is something really special about being trusted during a time of change. Buying or selling a home can feel deeply personal, and it is an honor to be part of that. There is no need to rush this process but knowing you can trust the agent behind you. Makes it all easier.
If you work with me, I will absolutely be your realtor. I will guide you, advocate for you, and help you make informed decisions. But I will also be someone who understands that this process can bring up emotions you did not expect.
You might find yourself talking about timing, intuition, or why a certain house feels right even if you cannot fully explain it yet. You might feel confident one day and unsure the next. All of that is normal.
So yes, sometimes I joke that I am a part time therapist. Not because I am here to fix anything, but because listening, supporting, and holding space are just as important as the transaction itself.
At the end of the day, I believe finding a home should feel supported, informed, and human. And if along the way you feel understood and cared for, then I am doing my job exactly the way I want to.
Because real estate is not just about houses. It is about people, and I genuinely love being part of that.
xoxo, alli ❤
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