There are moments in life when the rug gets pulled out from under you. One day, you feel steady, supported, guided, even thriving and the next, it’s gone. it can come in a blink of an eye. That’s the funny thing about the universe/god. The timing is never right.
For me, that moment came when I was let go from a team I thought would be my forever home. It was a place where I had a mentor, structure, and a sense of belonging. For a year, I felt alive in my work, aligned in my purpose, and proud of the community I was building. I felt like everything had fallen into place for me.
And then, without warning, it ended.
It hit me harder than I expected. Real estate isn’t just my career; it’s my calling. To suddenly feel cut off from the guidance and mentorship that made me flourish left me lost, questioning not just my future in real estate, but myself.
It has made my year difficult, fuzzy and throwing me in all directions. Sometimes though, things need to end because your soul isn’t aligning with them anymore and you are ready to grow. You just have to go through a hell of a lot of learning and rebuilding ❤
Rebuilding After Loss — In Life and in Real Estate
The truth is, transitions are hard. Losing something (or someone) that once defined us is disorienting. But here’s what I’ve learned: rebuilding is always possible, and sometimes it leads to something stronger than what came before. The loss you encountered is gearing yourself for more and to step out of your comfort zones!
I see the same story unfold with my clients:
- A family selling the only home their children ever knew.
- A couple downsizing after decades, trying to imagine life in a smaller space.
- First-time buyers overwhelmed by the unknowns of the process.
Each one of them, in their own way, has to let go of something. A house, a season of life, an identity tied to a place. And each one of them finds a way to rebuild.
My role? To guide them through the messy middle. The uncertainty, the doubt, the tears and to remind them that what’s next can still be beautiful.
Because even though this loss feels like it is life ending. Truly lol It is only life ending feeling because you are growing into something more powerful and beautiful. It will hurt in the process.
Lessons in Resilience
Being let go forced me to walk through the very lessons I so often share with my clients. At first, it felt like the end of something I had poured my heart into, but slowly I began to understand that change is rarely an ending. It’s an opening. Losing what I thought I needed cleared space for something I didn’t even know was waiting for me.
I also realized I couldn’t rebuild in isolation. Just like my clients lean on me when they’re moving through the emotions of selling a home or stepping into a new one, I had to lean on my mentors, friends, and community to remind me that I wasn’t alone.
That support became the scaffolding that held me up while I found my way again. Also isolation in comfort. So many of us stay in our “comfort zone” because of so many scattering thoughts of the future. The thing is though, life only begins when you start to take risks.
And perhaps, the most important lesson of all, your story will always matter more than the structure. A house is only walls and a roof until it’s filled with laughter, late-night dinners, and quiet mornings. A career is only a job until you bring your heart and meaning into it. What we build on the outside only becomes real when it reflects the life we’re living on the inside. Authenticity will clear the way for others who aren’t aligning with your souls purpose. Let it in.
Moving Forward
I won’t pretend the journey has been easy. Loss has a way of shaking us to our core but it also has a way of rebuilding us in a form that’s stronger, softer, and more true to who we are. Every time I’ve been forced to let go of something I thought defined me, I’ve eventually found that what comes next is a version of myself that feels more authentic, more aligned, and more alive.
That’s the clarity this chapter gave me. I am meant to do real estate differently. Not as a numbers game or a transaction, but as a soul-led calling. With story. With intention. With space for people to feel seen. Not just as clients, but as humans navigating their own seasons of change.
So if you’re feeling lost right now, please know this: you are not broken. You are in the sacred in-between, and that’s where the rebuilding begins. And if you happen to be standing at the edge of a transition, buying, selling, or searching for home again. I would be honored to walk alongside you. Because I know what it feels like to lose… and I also know the beauty of starting fresh, with a heart more open than before.
xoxo, Alli<3
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